Hi everybody! I'm excited about todays post because I think it's something everybody can relate to. First, I have a question to ask you...What does it mean to be your full authentic self? Do you feel like you are living that life? Or are you held back by fear of what other people will think or that you will not be accepted if you become your authentic self?
So, a very simple definition of authentic is genuine or not false. Do you feel as if you have created an image of yourself based on what other people want to see or do you feel you truly express what is in your heart? I see so many people unhappy in their lives because they have oppressed their true selves. They don't even know who they are anymore. They feel trapped, lost and even feel like strangers to themselves. Are you in a relationship that you are unhappy in? Do you have a job that you hate? Or do you have the "perfect" life but you feel completely unfulfilled and lost anyway?
One of my goals through Mindful Riding is to help women to find their true, authentic selves. Many don't even know where to begin. This was me many years ago. I felt trapped in a very long term relationship, paralyzed by the fear of the unknown. I had lost touch with who I was as a woman and as a spiritual being. I went through everyday like a machine...doing my work but without the vitality of life and passion. I felt so much anger...all directed at myself for allowing myself to remain in a life that I did not love. I knew I was meant for more but I did not know how to proceed. For me, it was discovering the community of self improvement and spirituality that led me to knowing my true self.
For those of you that feel like you have your true self oppressed by outside situations...work, relationships, etc... I encourage you to learn to express yourself! Begin to know yourself again by getting in touch to your creativity...writing, art, photography...literally anything you can do that gets you in touch with that creative spirit. Please please please don't be held back by the fear that people may not approve or may not accept you. Unfortunately, in our life we cannot make everybody happy! Stay true to yourself...by making yourself happy you will begin to get back in touch with that beautiful spirit that you may have lost touch with. At the end of they day, YOU are the one that matters most. You are not doing anybody any favors by hiding your true self.
For me, meditation and journaling was vital in getting back in touch with the part of myself that I had lost. For you, that may be bringing out some paints and canvas, or writing some poetry. Find the time to get back in touch with that part of you that may have been repressed.
I hope that I can help you to find that part of yourself that you may have lost or the part of yourself that you many feel like you have never really known.
You are a beautiful, authentic person. Move past the fear and let yourself shine!
Hello my beautiful friends!
On May 1 we will be launching our exclusive membership community, the Concordia Inner Circle. Signing up to be a member in this group will be an aweome way to get ongoing support from Martin & myself. We will be hosting a montly coaching call for members, a video analysis with training plan, priority access to clinics, retreats and camps, a private facebook community where you can connect to people as passionate about learning about dressage as you are. It will also include a weekly newsletter with training tips, q&a, and behind the scenes access to Concordia! We also have some other exciting new programs that will be announced soon:) Ok, off the soapbox and back to your regularly scheduled blog post...
It's spring time in Texas! The wildflowers are blooming, the temperatures are warming up and all of our students are in full training mode as they prepare for competitions and work towards their goals. This time of year we are at a show or clinic nearly every weekend. We have several new horses that have recently moved in to start training which is always exciting to build new relationships with the horses and their people! It's breeding season as well and although our breeding program is very small, we are still running three mares to the vet an hour away to get two of them bred and one of them foaled out. We are also in full on business building mode and we have some really exciting new features at Concordia Dressage. (www.concordiadressage.com)
When we have so much on our plates, we can so easily feel overwhelmed. Have you ever had so much to do that you feel yourself completely freeze up? I think sometimes we look at our giant to do lists and feel that there is no way that we can complete everything on this list and so we just don't do anything. I know I am guilty of this. I often put too much on my plate and I'll chip away a little here and a little there but it feels like no progress is ever made because nothing gets completed! I think when we feel that feeling of overwhelm, the best plan of action is to stop and take a deep breath. Clear your mind and center yourself. Then, make a list of the things that need to be done. Prioritize them and break them down into smaller, bite sized chunks. For example, one of the things I find most difficult to get motivated to do is to clean my house. I'm constantly in that state of freezing because it just feels so overwhelming (and with a very active toddler in the house, it sometimes feels like I live with a small tornado rather than a little girl!). The goal is to say I'm going to clean one room today...or hell, maybe one corner of one room. Then when I can successfully do that, I have MOMENTUM and CONFIDENCE! I can do this!
This approach can work with any type of overwhelm. I think it really does help to physically write it down and then break it down. What must be done today? Schedule it in!
This can work work with your riding as well! If you are feeling overwhelmed about the first level test you're going to be riding at a show next month, break the whole test down movement by movement. How do you feel when you read the description of each movement. When you read K to X leg yield right, are you feeling like "Oh yeah I got this!" Or are you filled with anxiety and dread? If one particular movement is difficult, break it down into its smallest parts and analyze each of those. With this approach you can start to find the holes and create change! This is Riding and training...being able to analyze the experience you are having in the moment and problem solve to make a positive difference on your horses mind and body.
And very importantly, be flexible. This can be the hardest part when you have a ton of things to do and you feel it's imperative to not get behind. But then the Universe gives you a flat tire while you're out running errands or your horse ends up lame before your horse show. We can choose how we respond to these situations. We may not have control over anything else, but we can control our response.
You're doing the best that you can. Be kind to yourself. Remember that whatever it is that you are stressed about or feeling overwhelmed about now will likely be a distant memory in the not too distant future. Also, you've heard me say it before but show GRATITUDE! Showing gratitude is a great way to put things back into perspective. And don't be afraid to say no. (This is a tough one isn't it?) I think many of us are people pleasers and the idea of saying no to anybody is really challenging! We don't want to feel rejected to therefore we don't want other people to feel rejected by us but by saying no to others, you are saying YES to yourself!
You're doing great. You have all the light and beauty of the world in you.